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Counseling, Every Man’s Battle, and About That Ex-Wife

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COUNSELING

I recently accepted the advice of a trusted friend to start receiving counseling. I’d been of the mindset that any healing I needed could be done on my own and in church with God’s help. I gave no respect to the “counseling” idea.
It was time to do so. I’m finding it hard to find the words to explain to you exactly how much these counseling sessions are helping.

Some of the effects really surprise me, however. Take for example the seemingly endless nights of crying. I’m talking about that cry where it feels like you’re ejecting your guts out of your mouth. Tears drop like they came from a sprinkler. You cry out unintelligible sentences. You feel like you’re losing your mind. Finally you’re so exhausted that you can’t keep your eyes open, so you fall asleep for a few hours, only to awaken and start the process again.

Especially at night. It always seems worse at night.

What’s causing this? I’d have to say “responsibility”. Finally facing some. Part of the healing process is being responsible and accountable.

It was a lot easier, for example, to be go through my day angry at Belinda and the way she hurt me than it is to face the fact that I pushed her into doing something she never wanted to do… that all she wanted to do was love ME and I couldn’t accept that. I thought she needed something more. I insisted that she take the “more” even after she’d let me know it wasn’t what she wanted. That fantasy wasn’t reality. The feelings that developed inside of her because of what I encouraged her to do… those are the feelings that led to the things she did which hurt me. She felt unloved. Why would someone who loved her allow and even encourage her to “play” with someone else?

Accountability. It hurts.

At the same time, I’ve also been addressing how my marriage to Wendy was ended. How I ripped HER apart too. How I sent her through the same things I’ve been experiencing (and more). How, when she thought she was going to lose her mind, I’d get on the phone and yell at her about it and tell her to stop listening to the people in her church. Those people were trying to help her. I told her she needed a prescription.

I can’t imagine going through what I’ve been experiencing, and having to take care of an infant alone at the same time. That’s what I sent my beautiful ex-wife through. The man she’d loved so well was off in a world of porn production. The man she thought she’d spend the rest of her life with was off living with another woman, and had “moved on” to that other woman so painfully quickly.

I remember her asking me why I’d moved on so quickly. I always felt justified by telling her, “I need someone. I’m all alone here. You have Caden, but I have nobody.” At the time it seemed like a really good explanation. How depraved. I guess some of us need to experience the same things we put others through in order to actually understand them.

What really blows me away about Wendy is that she sees what I’ve been going through and fully understands it. She doesn’t say, “I told you so” or laugh that I’m being paid back. She tells me it’s normal to wail. She tells me it will get better. She tells me to stop thinking of it as a bad thing, because it’s a very normal, healthy part of healing. About what I put her through, she tells me she wouldn’t have had it any other way because this horror and pain builds a much stronger person. She tells me it’s okay to grieve and mourn.

She loves me despite all of the things I’ve done to her. Isn’t that amazing? And when we talk I don’t hide any of the feelings I’ve been having about Belinda. Do you know what she does when I tell her those things? She mourns for Belinda. Her heart cries out to God to heal Belinda. I cannot tell you how much that touches me. I cannot begin to describe how much I see Jesus in her when she does stuff like that.

Then there’s Caden: I can’t express how horrible I feel that he’s had to live in a home without his daddy for as long as he can remember. Yeah, I’d see him very regularly and several times per week, but it’s not the same. He wasn’t meant to be unable to remember the times his daddy used to live in the same house. I only pray he’s never given crap from others about the work his daddy used to do. People can be cruel.

These are the things I’ve begun addressing on a much deeper level since counseling began. It has been excruciating.

EVERY MAN’S BATTLE

Every Man’s Battle continued this path of accountability.

What is Every Man’s Battle, you ask? It’s a program run by New Life Ministries. I’ll copy and paste their description for you:

“Every month, around the country, we offer the Every Man’s Battle Workshop three-day intensive program for men who are struggling with sexual integrity. It is Christ-centered, and uses a combination of teaching sessions and small group work, led by licensed Christian counselors.”

Several weeks ago I was asked if I’d come to one of these 3 day programs and share my story with the men in attendance. On Friday night I’d share my personal story, from Pastor’s son to porn producer to surrendering my life to God. On Saturday night I’d attempt to shed some light on the reality of pornography. Men that struggle with a porn addiction struggle with the FANTASY porn presents. The reality of porn is much different.

Those in attendance have either repeatedly cheated on their wives, have a very hard time keeping away from massage parlors or strip clubs, have had their relationships harmed by pornography, or have been affected in some other way by sexual sin.

During the day I was invited to sit in on the sessions if I’d like. This led to something very unexpected: although my marriage ended 6 years ago, I was yet another man in attendance who had deeply hurt his wife with my sexual sins. I was another man this program had been designed to help.

Much of the time I sat at the back of the room with tears streaming down my face, just like most of the other men.

My words can’t possibly describe what a great program New Life Ministries has put together. Every Man’s Battle offers men a huge tool to win their battles with sex addiction and repair their relationships.

While speaking, I struggled with the flow of words coming out of my mouth. I rambled a bit, but the intended message was communicated. Feedback was positive. I’m sure many of the men were given another tool to use in their personal struggles.

One of the counselors emailed me afterward and paid me a huge compliment:

You have an amazing maturity so early in your walk and a zeal that is contagious – I learned a lot from you this weekend (not just the porn stuff). I love the way you love God without the ‘infection’ of the American church culture (I think you know what I mean by that, don’t know how else to put it). Quite refreshing to say the least.

I know you played a major part in touching the men’s lives this weekend and in causing major casualties in the enemy’s armies.”

Reading that email this morning was very uplifting.

AND ABOUT THAT EX-WIFE

Following the second night came a question and answer period. One of the men asked if I thought I’d reconcile with Wendy. That’s a common question. It’s probably been asked a few hundred times, both to me and to Wendy as well. What a beautiful story it would be if things went full circle and our relationship was re-established and healed. Many think it will be.

But I’ll answer that question with a question of my own:

Do any of you think it’s fair to Wendy for me to pursue such a reconciliation while I’m still a complete mess inside? Until I can honestly say that all feelings for Belinda have gone away and that God has completely healed my soul I wouldn’t dare disrespect Wendy by trying to make her my wife again. She’s a truly remarkable, beautiful person who loved me better than anyone I know, and she’s continued to do so despite the hell I put her through. She’s an amazing, amazing woman who deserves an equally amazing man.

I’ll admit, however: the thought is never far from my mind. Perhaps someday… only God knows, I guess.

30 thoughts on “Counseling, Every Man’s Battle, and About That Ex-Wife

  1. It’s good to see you taking responsibility. I hope you will be able to get Belinda out of your head soon. She’s not your future. I’ll pray God helps you realize that deep inside.

  2. It’s good to see you taking responsibility. I hope you will be able to get Belinda out of your head soon. She’s not your future. I’ll pray God helps you realize that deep inside.

  3. Just keep reminding yourself that you’ve been completely forgiven. Forget the past and focus on the future. I think God will give you your family back and all of you will be stronger for it. Keep that in mind when negative thoughts try to enter your mind.

  4. Just keep reminding yourself that you’ve been completely forgiven. Forget the past and focus on the future. I think God will give you your family back and all of you will be stronger for it. Keep that in mind when negative thoughts try to enter your mind.

  5. My .02 for your question.While I agree that it probably isn’t fair to pursue Wendy romantically this first year in “recovery” and apart from Belinda, but this thought process is more for your growing in freedom process and your protection and well being emotionally/mentally/Spiritually than Wendy’s! The truth remains that you and Wendy were made one flesh and you created a child together. I understand that the laws of your state granted a divorce, but Spiritual laws are different in many ways.I see nothing wrong with pursuing and continuing to build a healthy friendship/relationship with Wendy that revolves around Caden. I see nothing wrong with sharing meals together, walks together, going to the movies as a family and just allowing God to be God in it.You don’t have to figure it all out right now, Donny. What about Wendy? Have you asked her how she feels about all of these questions that are being posed? How does she feel about a future reconcilliation?Lastly, don’t let the enemy fool you into thinking that everything has to be “just right” in your heart and mind before you can move forward. If that were true, you would be stagnant from here on out… I’m still working on stuff from YEARS ago… not heavy duty stuff, but stuff that still rears its ugly head from time to time and needs to be dealt with. I sure am glad those in my life didn’t wait for me to get it all together before they started investing in me. I try to remember this in my dealings with others.Take care, Donny.

  6. My .02 for your question.

    While I agree that it probably isn’t fair to pursue Wendy romantically this first year in “recovery” and apart from Belinda, but this thought process is more for your growing in freedom process and your protection and well being emotionally/mentally/Spiritually than Wendy’s!

    The truth remains that you and Wendy were made one flesh and you created a child together. I understand that the laws of your state granted a divorce, but Spiritual laws are different in many ways.

    I see nothing wrong with pursuing and continuing to build a healthy friendship/relationship with Wendy that revolves around Caden. I see nothing wrong with sharing meals together, walks together, going to the movies as a family and just allowing God to be God in it.

    You don’t have to figure it all out right now, Donny. What about Wendy? Have you asked her how she feels about all of these questions that are being posed? How does she feel about a future reconcilliation?

    Lastly, don’t let the enemy fool you into thinking that everything has to be “just right” in your heart and mind before you can move forward. If that were true, you would be stagnant from here on out… I’m still working on stuff from YEARS ago… not heavy duty stuff, but stuff that still rears its ugly head from time to time and needs to be dealt with. I sure am glad those in my life didn’t wait for me to get it all together before they started investing in me. I try to remember this in my dealings with others.

    Take care, Donny.

  7. rebound.02

  8. donny,i have to say, i disagree with amanda. sorry amanda. but i don’t think you should forget the past until you’ve processed it. the counseling helps fascilitate that process and i totally believe God works through that process. and i think you are right to put thoughts out of your mind about wendy until you’ve done some healing. do you need complete healing before considering this? i don’t know. also, there may be a natural progress in the relationship that would lead you deeper together, or lead you to decide its a bad idea, or unnatural to progress.either way, we’ll be praying for your recover and restoration. thanks for sharing your soul.brad

  9. rebound

    .02

  10. donny,

    i have to say, i disagree with amanda. sorry amanda. but i don’t think you should forget the past until you’ve processed it. the counseling helps fascilitate that process and i totally believe God works through that process.

    and i think you are right to put thoughts out of your mind about wendy until you’ve done some healing. do you need complete healing before considering this? i don’t know. also, there may be a natural progress in the relationship that would lead you deeper together, or lead you to decide its a bad idea, or unnatural to progress.

    either way, we’ll be praying for your recover and restoration. thanks for sharing your soul.

    brad

  11. I love you guys. You’re all so awesome. Today has been a great day. Not a single tear. Anytime a memory that would cause pain attempts to enter my mind I push it away.I have to remember to focus on what’s important in life: that God wants to use me to help others and that he wants to heal. That is really all that matters.

  12. I love you guys. You’re all so awesome.

    Today has been a great day. Not a single tear. Anytime a memory that would cause pain attempts to enter my mind I push it away.

    I have to remember to focus on what’s important in life: that God wants to use me to help others and that he wants to heal. That is really all that matters.

  13. Twofold. Because of your transparency, it seems fair for me to suggest that you have some things to work through, still.But on the flip side, beware of establishing some indeterminate goal of when you and Wendy could be reconciled. In a weird sort of way it’s the same logic that keeps people in a cycle that says “if God does this, I’ll commit my life to him.”Just continue to keep it in prayer, stay accountable, and if and when it is right for you to reconcile with your ex-wife, you will know.You’re awesome.

  14. Twofold. Because of your transparency, it seems fair for me to suggest that you have some things to work through, still.

    But on the flip side, beware of establishing some indeterminate goal of when you and Wendy could be reconciled. In a weird sort of way it’s the same logic that keeps people in a cycle that says “if God does this, I’ll commit my life to him.”

    Just continue to keep it in prayer, stay accountable, and if and when it is right for you to reconcile with your ex-wife, you will know.

    You’re awesome.

  15. Donny -

    Well said re: Wendy. What no one has mentioned is that Caden would be the happiest guy on Earth if you guys ever got back together. But I agree with you – you need to take it slow, process your junk, and just take it a step at a time.

    On a personal note, I have been doing well staying away from porn and I think I’ve got myself a little accountability group I think will stick that I am comfortable in. Woo-hoo!!!

    Riggy

  16. Donny -Well said re: Wendy. What no one has mentioned is that Caden would be the happiest guy on Earth if you guys ever got back together. But I agree with you – you need to take it slow, process your junk, and just take it a step at a time.On a personal note, I have been doing well staying away from porn and I think I’ve got myself a little accountability group I think will stick that I am comfortable in. Woo-hoo!!!Riggy

  17. Hey Man,1st, it was great to finally meet you on such happenstance, sorry if I disrupted a quiet time, didn’t realize that till later. But remembering portions of our conversation, especially the parts about Wendy, just wanted to commend you on being strong enough to work out your own stuff before making them someone elses’s burden to share. Sometimes those things really do belong to you and God to work out.Blessings be to you man, look forward to our next random encounter.

  18. Hey Man,

    1st, it was great to finally meet you on such happenstance, sorry if I disrupted a quiet time, didn’t realize that till later. But remembering portions of our conversation, especially the parts about Wendy, just wanted to commend you on being strong enough to work out your own stuff before making them someone elses’s burden to share. Sometimes those things really do belong to you and God to work out.

    Blessings be to you man, look forward to our next random encounter.

  19. Hello Donny,You may remember me from Saturday night @ the EMB weekend. I was one that you and Sam prayed with after your testimony. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and the reality of an industry that is not what it appears to be. You were truly a blessing to me and many others I am sure.Troy

  20. Hello Donny,

    You may remember me from Saturday night @ the EMB weekend. I was one that you and Sam prayed with after your testimony. Thank you for sharing your heart with us and the reality of an industry that is not what it appears to be. You were truly a blessing to me and many others I am sure.

    Troy

  21. Donny, This is Emily from Myspace who asked you to think about some of the people on your page… I just wanted to say that I fully agree with what “fromhisrib” said. And also as Christians we don’t have to feel so threatened by thoughts because in Christ we have authority to take our thoughts captive. Often it seems that God allows thoughts to come into my mind because he wants me to release it to Him. It may be something I haven’t thought about in a long time, but in a way He is showing me, Emily, give this to me–I will heal you, I want that place in your heart too. Our tendency to to run from our thoughts, but God gave us a memory for some reason. Our thoughts are not sin, but we can chose to sin based on how we handle them. Remember you have been given all authority in Christ Jesus and there is no longer reason to fear the past. Let Him love you.

  22. Donny,
    This is Emily from Myspace who asked you to think about some of the people on your page… I just wanted to say that I fully agree with what “fromhisrib” said. And also as Christians we don’t have to feel so threatened by thoughts because in Christ we have authority to take our thoughts captive. Often it seems that God allows thoughts to come into my mind because he wants me to release it to Him. It may be something I haven’t thought about in a long time, but in a way He is showing me, Emily, give this to me–I will heal you, I want that place in your heart too. Our tendency to to run from our thoughts, but God gave us a memory for some reason. Our thoughts are not sin, but we can chose to sin based on how we handle them. Remember you have been given all authority in Christ Jesus and there is no longer reason to fear the past. Let Him love you.

  23. Dear Donny,I won’t comment on the first two items except to say they moved me and at one point, to tears. Can’t explain it here. But the last part, about your ex-wife, I just wanted to say, that you never know. What you had with Belinda, though special, was built on a false premise or foundation. What you had with your wife Wendy on the other hand…and even now, was built on marriage and a commitment before God, whether you cared about God or not. Listen, as per whether you’re worthy of her love or she having someone better than you…let’s take this further. None of us deserves God’s love, none of us is worthy of it, yet He lavishes us with His love. Is He mistaken for doing so. Is our pride such that we don’t think He’s got it right in loving us despite our failures, sins, and everything else that nailed Him to the cross. If reconciliation was possible, then that’s an example of God’s love, God’s forgiveness, God’s healing…these are things your son can learn from, about how God works. Who’s to say that Wendy isn’t a visible representation of God’s love to you, a grace to heal.You won’t get it all right, and you’ll have to keep working at every aspect of reconciliation and healing and love. Hey, I believe it’s possible…no I believe it can and should be. Now it only takes both hearts pursuing God for an understanding of His purposes and direction. What better full circle would this be. Anyway, it is certainly more than an ideal, but a possibility…in God…in His time…in His way. Whether it happens or not, brother, I am with you all the way and would love to celebrate it with you, should God deem it as His purpose…hey, I’ll be praying that your first reconciliation with God, take priority and as you seek Him first and His kingdom, that all these things should and can be added, to the glory of God.1 John 3:1-3SEE WHAT [an incredible] quality of love the Father has given (shown, bestowed on) us, that we should [be permitted to] be named and called and counted the children of God! And so we are! The reason that the world does not know (recognize, acknowledge) us is that it does not know (recognize, acknowledge) Him. Beloved, we are [even here and] now God’s children; it is not yet disclosed (made clear) what we shall be [hereafter], but we know that when He comes and is manifested, we shall [as God's children] resemble and be like Him, for we shall see Him just as He [really] is. And everyone who has this hope [resting] on Him cleanses (purifies) himself just as He is pure (chaste, undefiled, guiltless). Amplified BibleLove you brother and praying for you.Your friend, Daniel MendezFor http://www.myspace.com/broadcastpraise

  24. Dear Donny,
    I won’t comment on the first two items except to say they moved me and at one point, to tears. Can’t explain it here. But the last part, about your ex-wife, I just wanted to say, that you never know. What you had with Belinda, though special, was built on a false premise or foundation.

    What you had with your wife Wendy on the other hand…and even now, was built on marriage and a commitment before God, whether you cared about God or not. Listen, as per whether you’re worthy of her love or she having someone better than you…let’s take this further. None of us deserves God’s love, none of us is worthy of it, yet He lavishes us with His love.

    Is He mistaken for doing so. Is our pride such that we don’t think He’s got it right in loving us despite our failures, sins, and everything else that nailed Him to the cross. If reconciliation was possible, then that’s an example of God’s love, God’s forgiveness, God’s healing…these are things your son can learn from, about how God works. Who’s to say that Wendy isn’t a visible representation of God’s love to you, a grace to heal.

    You won’t get it all right, and you’ll have to keep working at every aspect of reconciliation and healing and love. Hey, I believe it’s possible…no I believe it can and should be. Now it only takes both hearts pursuing God for an understanding of His purposes and direction. What better full circle would this be. Anyway, it is certainly more than an ideal, but a possibility…in God…in His time…in His way. Whether it happens or not, brother, I am with you all the way and would love to celebrate it with you, should God deem it as His purpose…hey, I’ll be praying that your first reconciliation with God, take priority and as you seek Him first and His kingdom, that all these things should and can be added, to the glory of God.

    1 John 3:1-3

    SEE WHAT [an incredible] quality of love the Father has given (shown, bestowed on) us, that we should [be permitted to] be named and called and counted the children of God! And so we are! The reason that the world does not know (recognize, acknowledge) us is that it does not know (recognize, acknowledge) Him.

    Beloved, we are [even here and] now God’s children; it is not yet disclosed (made clear) what we shall be [hereafter], but we know that when He comes and is manifested, we shall [as God's children] resemble and be like Him, for we shall see Him just as He [really] is.

    And everyone who has this hope [resting] on Him cleanses (purifies) himself just as He is pure (chaste, undefiled, guiltless). Amplified Bible

    Love you brother and praying for you.
    Your friend,
    Daniel Mendez
    For http://www.myspace.com/broadcastpraise

  25. Daniel,I just read what you posted. It brought me to tears. Actually, that would be better described as making me weep. It was really good and the timing was perfect. I just finished reading out of Acts and was praying and communicating with God. What you’ve written goes hand in hand with both where I am and what I’ve been talking to God about.Thank you.- Donny -

  26. Daniel,

    I just read what you posted. It brought me to tears. Actually, that would be better described as making me weep. It was really good and the timing was perfect. I just finished reading out of Acts and was praying and communicating with God. What you’ve written goes hand in hand with both where I am and what I’ve been talking to God about.

    Thank you.

    - Donny -

  27. Dear Donny,I won’t comment on the first two items except to say they moved me and at one point, to tears. Can’t explain it here. But the last part, about your ex-wife, I just wanted to say, that you never know. What you had with Belinda, though special, was built on a false premise or foundation. What you had with your wife Wendy on the other hand…and even now, was built on marriage and a commitment before God, whether you cared about God or not. Listen, as per whether you’re worthy of her love or she having someone better than you…let’s take this further. None of us deserves God’s love, none of us is worthy of it, yet He lavishes us with His love. Is He mistaken for doing so. Is our pride such that we don’t think He’s got it right in loving us despite our failures, sins, and everything else that nailed Him to the cross. If reconciliation was possible, then that’s an example of God’s love, God’s forgiveness, God’s healing…these are things your son can learn from, about how God works. Who’s to say that Wendy isn’t a visible representation of God’s love to you, a grace to heal.You won’t get it all right, and you’ll have to keep working at every aspect of reconciliation and healing and love. Hey, I believe it’s possible…no I believe it can and should be. Now it only takes both hearts pursuing God for an understanding of His purposes and direction. What better full circle would this be. Anyway, it is certainly more than an ideal, but a possibility…in God…in His time…in His way. Whether it happens or not, brother, I am with you all the way and would love to celebrate it with you, should God deem it as His purpose…hey, I’ll be praying that your first reconciliation with God, take priority and as you seek Him first and His kingdom, that all these things should and can be added, to the glory of God.1 John 3:1-3SEE WHAT [an incredible] quality of love the Father has given (shown, bestowed on) us, that we should [be permitted to] be named and called and counted the children of God! And so we are! The reason that the world does not know (recognize, acknowledge) us is that it does not know (recognize, acknowledge) Him. Beloved, we are [even here and] now God’s children; it is not yet disclosed (made clear) what we shall be [hereafter], but we know that when He comes and is manifested, we shall [as God's children] resemble and be like Him, for we shall see Him just as He [really] is. And everyone who has this hope [resting] on Him cleanses (purifies) himself just as He is pure (chaste, undefiled, guiltless). Amplified BibleLove you brother and praying for you.Your friend, Daniel MendezFor http://www.myspace.com/broadcastpraise

  28. Dear Donny,
    I won’t comment on the first two items except to say they moved me and at one point, to tears. Can’t explain it here. But the last part, about your ex-wife, I just wanted to say, that you never know. What you had with Belinda, though special, was built on a false premise or foundation.

    What you had with your wife Wendy on the other hand…and even now, was built on marriage and a commitment before God, whether you cared about God or not. Listen, as per whether you’re worthy of her love or she having someone better than you…let’s take this further. None of us deserves God’s love, none of us is worthy of it, yet He lavishes us with His love.

    Is He mistaken for doing so. Is our pride such that we don’t think He’s got it right in loving us despite our failures, sins, and everything else that nailed Him to the cross. If reconciliation was possible, then that’s an example of God’s love, God’s forgiveness, God’s healing…these are things your son can learn from, about how God works. Who’s to say that Wendy isn’t a visible representation of God’s love to you, a grace to heal.

    You won’t get it all right, and you’ll have to keep working at every aspect of reconciliation and healing and love. Hey, I believe it’s possible…no I believe it can and should be. Now it only takes both hearts pursuing God for an understanding of His purposes and direction. What better full circle would this be. Anyway, it is certainly more than an ideal, but a possibility…in God…in His time…in His way. Whether it happens or not, brother, I am with you all the way and would love to celebrate it with you, should God deem it as His purpose…hey, I’ll be praying that your first reconciliation with God, take priority and as you seek Him first and His kingdom, that all these things should and can be added, to the glory of God.

    1 John 3:1-3

    SEE WHAT [an incredible] quality of love the Father has given (shown, bestowed on) us, that we should [be permitted to] be named and called and counted the children of God! And so we are! The reason that the world does not know (recognize, acknowledge) us is that it does not know (recognize, acknowledge) Him.

    Beloved, we are [even here and] now God’s children; it is not yet disclosed (made clear) what we shall be [hereafter], but we know that when He comes and is manifested, we shall [as God's children] resemble and be like Him, for we shall see Him just as He [really] is.

    And everyone who has this hope [resting] on Him cleanses (purifies) himself just as He is pure (chaste, undefiled, guiltless). Amplified Bible

    Love you brother and praying for you.
    Your friend,
    Daniel Mendez
    For http://www.myspace.com/broadcastpraise

  29. Hi, Donny,I haven’t been able to read in awhile. It’s so great to hear about your experiences with New Life. I absolutely love that ministry and all they have done to help restore marriages and change lives.And thanks for being honest “about that ex-wife”. I’ve wondered myself whether you’d consider reconciling, and am glad to hear that while you’ve thought about it, you want to work on yourself before jumping into anything. I went to years of secular counseling and 3 years of intense Christian counseling in order to jumpstart my own healing, and I would do it again in a heartbeat if it were necessary. It’s one of the best investments I made in my life.Take care. You’re in my prayers.

  30. Hi, Donny,

    I haven’t been able to read in awhile. It’s so great to hear about your experiences with New Life. I absolutely love that ministry and all they have done to help restore marriages and change lives.

    And thanks for being honest “about that ex-wife”. I’ve wondered myself whether you’d consider reconciling, and am glad to hear that while you’ve thought about it, you want to work on yourself before jumping into anything. I went to years of secular counseling and 3 years of intense Christian counseling in order to jumpstart my own healing, and I would do it again in a heartbeat if it were necessary. It’s one of the best investments I made in my life.

    Take care. You’re in my prayers.

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